The word "toast"
is of Latin origin and referred to an actual bit of
spiced, burned bread which was dropped into a cup of
wine to improve its flavor, and to help absorb the
sediment. In the 18th Century, when communal baths
were popular, a wag drank to the health of a famous
beauty from a cup of rinse water. A light hearted lad
standing nearby offered to jump in with the lass,
exclaiming, "I do not like the liquor so much, but I
should love to have the toast" referring to the
dampened damsel. Eventually, drinking to one's health
became known as drinking a toast.
All speeches at
weddings are really toasts and replies to toasts. Good
taste requires certain rules be followed:
each toast and each reply should be no longer than
four minutes, three would be better. one joke per
toast, and it should be at the beginning.
slang or vulgarity should not be used. one should not
refer to the honeymoon or the family the bride and
groom may or may not have.
one should not poke fun at anyone in attendance.
Function and Duties of the Master of
should be brief, clear, audible, and it should propose
a toast or be a reply to a toast. The speaker should
be at ease.
The ritual of toasting is simple. Following the dinner
the Master of Ceremonies introduces the person who
will be giving the toast to the bride. The groom then
responds with thanks, and may then toast the bride's
parents, his best man, and attendants. The father of
the bride may then toast the bride and groom, followed
by the best man with a toast to the maid-of honor and
the other attendants. The groom or the Master of
Ceremonies may then propose a toast to the groom's
parents, with a reply to follow from the groom's
father. It is then in order for any other guests to
propose further toasts.
The function of the Master of Ceremonies is to
ensure the orderly development of events at the
reception. From the time of arrival of the
first guests until the final statement following the
departure of the bride and groom, the Master of
Ceremonies should serve as an unobtrusive organizer.
Some of the major duties
of the Master of Ceremonies include:
final audio check and setting for any microphone being
used, before the arrival of guests.
directing all guests to the refreshment area.
directing any special guests to their reserved tables.
announcing the dinner seating after the receiving line
has welcomed all guests.
welcoming the guests on behalf of the bride and groom
and announcing the serving of dinner.
introducing the person who will say grace.
following dinner, introducing the members of the head
table to the guests.
introducing the person who will be giving the toast to
proposing the toast to the groom's parents.
inviting any further toasts following the reply of the
groom's father. calling upon the best man to read any
telegrams or messages.
relaying, on behalf of the bride and groom, any
special words of thanks.
the introduction of any out-of-town guests, or if
there are many, an introduction of the special out-of
town guests, with a general acknowledgement of all
announcing the cutting of the cake by the bride and
announcing the availability of refreshments.
announcing the start of dancing and the bride and
groom's first dance, with the invitation for others to
join in after its completion.
announcing the tossing of the bouquet.
announcing the departure of the bride and groom.
For The Master Of Ceremonies
BRIDAL PARTY MAY WISH TO MAKE CHANGES TO THIS ORDER OF
DUTIES TO SUIT THEIR WEDDING, OR HAVE OUR OWN (Disc
Jockey / Compere) TO ACT AS THEIR MC
STEWARDS SHOULD SEAT THE GUESTS, (or
Have our Compare do it for them).
THE ENTRY OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM (As
soon as it is time to bring the Bridal Party in to the
THE (DJ) TO ASK GUESTS TO BE UPSTANDING TO
RECEIVE THE BRIDAL PARTY, (So that the (DJ) can play
there special tune for the entry.) OR IF THEY CHOSE
THAT THE WHOLE BRIDAL PARTY BE INTRODUCED
INDIVIDUALLY, THEN THE GUESTS CAN BE SEATED ONCE THE
BRIDAL PARTY ARE FULLY SEATED... once that
has been done he/she will introduce him/herself then
with great pleasure (if that the (DJ) is not your MC
tonight) introduce your MC to you and your Guests.
THEN ON BEHALF OF THE BRIDE & GROOM, THE MC
FORMALLY WELCOMES THE GUESTS TO THIS AUSPICIOUS
OCCASION TO THE WEDDING OF
EXPLAINS THE PROCEEDINGS FOR THE REST OF THE EVENING.
SOME COUPLES LIKE GRACE TO BE OFFERED AT THE
BEGINNING OF THE MEAL, IN WHICH CASE THE MC WILL
INTRODUCE A NOMINATED PERSON TO CONDUCT THIS.
Today, Grace and/or Loyal Toast are Optional. If
either or both are to be said, the Newlyweds remain
standing at their places and the (DJ)/MC asks everyone
"Please remain standing for Grace, said by
____________________" (usually, the Priest who married
the couple). Grace should be very short, very simple.
HERE IF BRIDE & GROOM WANT, IS WHERE SOMEONE
CAN GIVE A TOAST, everyone needs time to
relax and enjoy the first two courses before the
THE MC WILL LIAISE WITH THE CATERERS TO FIND
OUT WHEN OR HOW LONG BEFORE THE MAIN MEAL WILL BE, AND
THEN KEEP CHECKING WITH THEM THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT ON
EACH PART OF THE MEALS FOR WHEN THEY WOULD BE SERVED.
FOOD IS SERVED TO THE
BRIDAL TABLE, (Which is Optional) WHICH IS USUALLY
DONE AFTER THE GRACE HAS BEEN OFFERED, THEN THE
WEDDING BREAKFAST COMMENCES AND USUALLY CONTINUES TO
BACKGROUND MUSIC BY OUR (Disc Jockey) UNTIL THE
ENTREE, MAIN COURSE HAS BEEN FINISHED (& or also WHEN
DESERT HAS BEEN SERVED).
TOASTS AND SPEECHES
After main meal or desert is served
(Which ever you have decided), it's time for the
speeches (PLEASE MAKE SURE TEN 10 MINUTES EARLIER THAT
YOU GIVE ALL GUESTS A WARNING TO GO TO THE BATHROOM AS
IT IS EMBARRASSING FOR THE BRIDE OR GROOM TO DISAPPEAR
DURING THE SPEECHES). (Tell them to be Quick!)
MC or OUR (DJ) TO MAKE SURE THAT THE CHAMPAGNE
IS TO BE POURED OUT WHEN EITHER THE MAIN MEAL IS OVER,
(or when the desert is finished). (For a detailed list
on who say's what, when for a speech, see the speech
AFTER ALL THE PLATES HAVE BEEN REMOVED FROM
THE TABLES, THE MC WILL CHECK ON HOW LONG BEFORE
CHAMPAGNE IS SERVED BEFORE THE SPEECHES TAKE PLACE,
WHILE THE STEWARDS ARE CLEANING UP AFTER THE MAIN
MEAL, STEWARDS ARE ALSO SERVING OUT THE CHAMPAGNE FOR
THE TOASTS, WHICH WOULD BE SHORTLY.
WITH THE MAIN MEAL OVER AND THE PLATES ARE
CLEANED OF THE TABLES, THE MC WILL CALL EVERYONE TO
ATTENTION FOR THE SPECIAL SPEECH SEGMENTS.
THE SPEECHES IS NOW BEING CONDUCTED, AND WHEN
EVERYONE HAS CHAMPAGNE, NOW AT THE MOMENT ALL
PROCEDURES FOR SPEECHES WILL FOLLOW FROM THE SPEECH
FORMAT SHEET (Which is supplied by the
Bride & Groom).
THE MC NOW PASSES THE SHOW ONTO THE
(Disc Jockey) Where the (DJ) will play more great
music THIS IS WHERE THE DESERT, IS NOW BEING
SERVED TO THE GUESTS.
THE (DJ) NOW INFORMS EVERYONE THAT OF WHEN
COFFEE IS NOW BEING SERVED.
THE (DJ) WILL NOW INVITE UP THE BRIDE AND
GROOM, TO CUT THE WEDDING CAKE SO THAT MOST OF
FORMALITIES ARE FINISHED, AND THE (DJ) CAN PLAY A SONG
FOR THE CUTTING OF THE CAKE.
THIS IS WHERE THE MC NOW SHOULD THANK ALL OF
THE (CATERERS, VIDEOGRAPHER, PHOTOGRAPHER, AND OFF
COURSE THE Disc Jockey) FOR A VERY HELPFUL NIGHT.
THE PHOTOGRAPHER WOULD NOW LIKE TO TAKE
PHOTO'S IN THE FOYER, THE MC / or (DJ) CAN ANNOUNCE,
IF ANYONE WOULD LIKE TO HAVE PHOTO'S TAKEN WITH THE
NEWLYWEDS ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT.
THE MC WILL INVITE THE BRIDE AND GROOM TO OPEN
THEIR PRESENTS. (Optional)
THE (DJ) WILL HERE INVITE UP THE BRIDE & GROOM
TO DO THEIR BRIDAL WALTZ. FOLLOWED BY THE REST OF THE
BRIDAL TABLE, THEN THE PARENTS, THEN IF THERE IS
ANYONE THAT WOULD LIKE TO JOIN IN WITH THE DANCING.
THIS IS THE GAMES SEGMENT OF WHICH THE BOUQUET
AND GARTER IS ORGANIZED BY OUR (Disc Jockey), TO WHICH
YOU HAVE PICKED OUT A GAME OF SOME SORT TO DO FOR THE
BOUQUET & GARTER.
IN THIS SEGMENT THE (DJ) WILL THANK THE MC FOR
ALL OF HIS HELP TONIGHT AND WILL PROPOSE A TOAST TO
HIM ON BEHALF OF THE BRIDE, GROOM AND ALL OFF THE
GUESTS THAT ARE STILL PRESENT AT END OF THE NIGHT (Or
it can be done straight after the speeches if the M.C
isn't doing any more work tonight)
THE FAREWELL SEGMENT ON WHICH THE (DJ) WILL
INVITE UP EVERYONE TO THE DANCE FLOOR IN EITHER A
CIRCLE or AN ARCHWAY FOR THE BRIDE & GROOM TO SAY
FAREWELL TO ALL OF THEIR GUESTS. WITH THE BRIDE AND
GROOM GONE THE (Disc Jockey) WILL CONTINUE TO PLAY
HEAPS MORE GREAT MUSIC TO THE END OF THE NIGHT, AND
SAY GOOD NIGHT TO ALL WISHING ALL GUEST A GOOD JOURNEY
SPEECHES LISTED ARE ONLY
GUIDES, WE DO ENCOURAGE YOU TO ALTER THEM TO SUIT YOUR
OWN INDIVIDUAL NEEDS FOR WHAT TO SAY.
TOAST TO THE
BRIDE AND GROOM: This speech is
usually made by a good friend of either family or
relative who is a good speaker. Sincerity is the key
word here for this Speech. "I have known (Bride) since
.... She has a lovely character (ATTRIBUTES) Etc. Her
home life has been ..... (PARENTS ATTRIBUTES) so it
only stands to reason that the Bride has some of the
lovely, unselfish characteristics of her Parents. I
think the Groom is a lucky man to have (Bride) to
stand by his side because etc. As for (Groom) he has /
hasn't always been on the scene, but over the past
.... years he has proved to be a wonderful husband and
companion to (Bride). Let me tell you a funny story
about (Groom) .... etc. I would like take this
opportunity of wishing both (Bride & Groom) the very
best for their future happiness together .... etc.
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, I NOW WOULD LIKE (Bride & Groom)
TO STAND AND INVITE EVERYONE TO DRINK WITH ME, A VERY
SPECIAL TOAST TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM!.."
RESPONSE BY THE
GROOM: "I Would like to thank (E.g.:
JOE) for his kind words about (Bride) & myself, ON
BEHALF OF MY WIFE AND MYSELF (Guests usually applaud
Loudly)... We want to express our gratitude to many
people here for helping us celebrate this most
important day in our lives." PARENTS:.... (Bringing
you both up, their moral / financial support, their
friendship and love, for wedding breakfast, etc.) "We
want you to know, Mums & Dads, we both love you and
really appreciate you & Thank you sincerely for all
you've done for us both". FRIENDS:.... (How good it is
to have them here. For the vast distances traveled (
E.g.: Sydney - Hong Kong etc.).) For their support, &
the lovely gifts they have chosen. "We can't wait to
do some unwrapping!, please do us the honor of
enjoying yourself tonight". SPECIAL PEOPLE:....
Minister... Person who made wedding cake...
Photographers, Car Drivers.. Caterers... Florist...The
Disc Jockey.. Forgotten anyone else?... Groomsmen &
Best man. "They have been a tremendous help in the
smooth running of our Wedding day today. Now last but
not least, (Bride) & I want to thank our lovely
Bridesmaids, who have been wonderful in helping
(Bride). I'm sure you'll agree that they look
WORDS, I'D LIKE THE BRIDESMAIDS TO BE UPSTANDING AND
IF EVERYONE CAN CHARGE THEIR GLASSES,TO DRINK WITH ME
A TOAST TO THE BRIDESMAIDS, "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, TO
RESPONSE BY THE
BEST MAN: "Thank you (Groom), It has
been a pleasure for me to be your best man. We have
been friends for a long time, & I was delighted when
you asked me to stand in this role today. I'd like to
relate a little story about (Groom) ..... (Humorous or
serious). The Bridesmaids have also assured me that it
was their pleasure to assist (Bride). We have had a
heap of fun together today, but seriously, on behalf
of the Bridesmaids, the Groomsmen & Myself, we wish to
offer our best wishes an congratulations to (Bride &
Groom). We trust that they will enjoy a lifetime of
love and prosperity, be happy and be able to work
through their problems together. Hang in their, and
invite us to your Golden Wedding Anniversary. Thank
TOAST TO THE
BRIDES PARENTS: The MC Calls on a
Relative or close friend of Bride's family, to propose
a toast to the Brides parents. "I have known (Bride's
parents) for many years now & our association with
them has been one of pleasure and respect. I am glad /
honored to be able to propose this toast to them....
(Relate briefly their virtues and quality traits of
character). With Parents such as (Brides Parents), is
easy to see how they have produced a lovely daughter
such as (Bride). I can only recommend (Bride & Groom)
that you take a leaf out of your Parents book of life
IF I COULD HAVE (BRIDES PARENTS) UPSTANDING, WITHOUT
ANY FURTHER WORDS CAN EVERYONE CHARGE THEIR GLASSES TO
TOAST TO THE BRIDE'S PARENTS, "LADIES & GENTLEMEN TO
THE BRIDE'S PARENTS!".
FATHER OF THE BRIDE: This is the
fathers chance to say all those things he has wanted
to say about his Daughter in public!, Guests expect
him to have a good say and brag if he wants to. He is
usually the one paying for the Wedding, after all!.
"Thank you, (Friend / Relative) for the kind words you
said about my wife & myself. Now what can a father say
about a daughter like (Bride) ?. She has been winding
me around her little finger for so many years now
that.. (I'm going to miss it?) (Groom), we are happy
to welcome you into our family. We've come to
appreciate you as the person who (Bride) has entrusted
with her love, and my wife and I want to wish you both
every happiness. THANK YOU".
TOAST TO THE
GROOM'S PARENTS: MC Calls on a
Relative or close friend of the Groom's family, to
propose a toast to the Groom's parents. This will be a
similar speech to the one proposed to the parents of
the Bride. (Or changed to suit on the night)
FATHER OF THE GROOM: This will be a
similar speech to the one by the Father of the Bride.
"Thank you (E.g.: Jim) for your kind words. We would
like to add our congratulations to the newly weds. We
feel that we are not losing a son, but gaining a
Daughter. If I myself could have chosen a wife for my
son, I couldn't have made a better choice than (Groom)
has done himself. We are more than happy to welcome
(Bride) into our family, etc... THANK YOU".
LETTERGRAMS, Emails, Faxes (The Old fashioned
Telegrams) The MC calls on the Best Man & Groomsmen to
stand up and read the telegrams or lettergrams. (Funny
or not so funny ones received).
TOAST TO ABSENT
FRIENDS Toast proposed usually by the
MC or a very good Friend or close Relative of the
Bride & Groom. "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN IF I COULD HAVE
EVERYONE UP STANDING WITH CHARGED GLASSES AND WE WILL
HAVE A TOAST TO ABSENT FRIENDS" "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN
TO ABSENT FRIENDS!"
SUCCESSFUL SPEAKING ARE:
It's easy to
see why most guides recommend that three minutes is
quite long enough for a wedding speech! keyed up by
wedding jitters, buoyed up by champagne, often
unaccustomed to facing an audience of people, every
speaker longs to do well, yet dreads putting both feet
in their mouth. And if you've never (or hardly ever)
had to make a speech before, it's easy to panic. The
most common traps are speaking faster than normal,
stumbling and adlibbing to cover up, and speaking well
over the three minute time limited. THERE ARE
JUST FOUR KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL SPEECH MAKING.
1. Keep it short, keep it clean, learn it by heart.
Remember to bring your notes and don't be afraid to
2. Use numbered postcard size notes with one sentence
or short paragraph printed in bold clear writing on
each. They don't get lost, they don't rustle and they
fit comfortably into a suit pocket.
3. Rehearsal is a must! Persuade a friend to listen
and watch, or use a tape recorder and talk to the
4. Light humor and gentle jokes are warmly received in
any wedding speech, but be aware of clumsy phrasing or
risqu้ jokes which might embarrass or offend any
member of the wedding party or guests. Cliches about
the Bride in her Nappys (or the Groom without his),
innuendo about previous relationships and
mother-in-law jokes are definitely OFF the wedding
speaker's list (but you have the choice).
Finally, remember you have lots of friends among the
guests, all of whom want your speech to go over well
just as much as you do!.....